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We all have met people who hate their jobs because of the people they work with. In a survey of 1500 workers it was found that 12 percent of staff had quit a job at some point to avoid nasty people at work and 45 percent were thinking about doing so. Experts estimate that 15% of your success comes from your skill and knowledge and 85% from your ability to connect to people and build trust and respect.

The ability to get along well with people in your personal relationships and in the workplace is a set of learned skills. No one is born knowing how to build others self esteem, show empathy, encourage cooperation, and communicate assertively etc...

However it is not very difficult to learn and develop these skills. By making the effort to build these ‘people skills' you will be able to build a better relationship at home and at work. It is a proven fact that people who can get things done through others, who can motivate; those who are liked and those who get along with others, stand a better chance at becoming leaders in the work place and leading a more happy and satisfied life. For a happier and more satisfied professional and personal life it is worth investing time and effort building the following set of skills;

 

Build self esteem                                                                                                       

At work and everywhere else, people like to hear that they are important and relevant. Let them know you think they are working real hard, that they are doing a great job-that they are contributing; that who they are and what they do has genuine value. Try it with your spouse, with your colleagues, with your friends. Be an encourager and an affirmer. There is no easier way to building your relationships than this.

You can make others feel good by doing the following:                                             

  -Make eye contact.                                                                                                      

 -Call them by their names.

-Ask for their opinions.

-Compliment thier work.

-Tell people how much you appreciate them.

-Write notes of thanks when someone does something worthwhile.

-Show empathy for others. Empathy means recognizing emotions in others. It is the capacity to put yourself in another person's shoes and understand how they feel about things.

 

Focus on your similarities.                                                                                  

 Research shows we're more likely to be influenced by people who are similar to us. If you've been there too, if you've endured their pain, if you look and talk and dress like they do, they'll probably like you more. They'll listen to you more, they'll confide in you more. So focus on the similar. Even if you have a scant one percent commonality with somebody at work, focus 100 percent of your conversation on that commonality when you can.

 

Communicate assertively                                                                               

  Assertive communication is a constructive way of expressing feelings and opinions. Assertive behavior enables you to:

-Act in your own best interests.

-Stand up for yourself without becoming anxious.

-Express your honest feelings.

-Assert your personal rights without denying the rights of others

 

Encourage people to cooperate with each other.                                            

 Whether you are managing a family or a work group, there are specific things you can do to create an environment where others work together well.

-Don't play favorites. Treat everyone the same.

-Don't talk about people behind their backs.

-Ask for others' ideas. Participation increases commitment.

-Follow up on suggestions, requests, and comments, even if you are unable to carry out a request.

-Reinforce cooperative behavior. Don't take it for granted.

-At your workplace build a team instead of a staff of competitors. Pitting people, who have to work together against each other sets up an atmosphere of unnecessary competition. The real competitor is the other business, not the people inside.

 

Don't complain.                                                                                                         

Do not complain unless you have a solution. Offer potential solutions when you identify problems, or say nothing at all

 

Smile a lot.                                                                                                                

 Do it consistently throughout the day and then watch how others respond to you. You'll be pleasantly surprised (and they might be too!).

 

Use self-depreciating humor.                                                                               

 Don't hesitate to make fun of yourself. In a world where people are so full of themselves and incessantly concerned about communicating their own importance, self-depreciating humor can instantly make you attractive.

 

Talk about your own mistakes while raising theirs.                                                

 You might be a perfectionist, but you're not perfect. If you want to get somebody to listen to you about mistakes they've made, start by identifying your own.

 

Be approachable.                                                                                                   

  Create an environment where people are relaxed in your presence and feel comfortable approaching you.

 

Apologize.                                                                                                                   

 Just say it and see how liberating it is.

 

Never, ever gossip                                                                                                 

 Many people don't even realize they're doing it, bonding with someone by tarnishing someone else's reputation

 

Don't communicate when you're angry.                                                                      

Sometimes it's unavoidable, but often it's not. Most of us do an exceedingly poor job of making our point clear when our brains are clouded by anger. Never ever send an angry email. If you send it, your angry words will be on record for ever. So just say no to angry emails.

People skills are like any other skills. The more you use them, the more adept you become. So if you're serious about "perfecting" your people skills, there's no shortcut. Only practice will make perfect.

It is estimated that workers and managers spend half to two-thirds of their time dealing with people problems. The bottom line is that an aptitude for working with others is extremely important, so make a commitment to improve your people skills and you'll observe that not only does it make you more productive but makes your job easier as well.

 

Latest Comments

XBBL5KH on 05 Jun 2017, 18:38 PM

Really good information.

paladara@amazon.com on 19 Oct 2016, 17:12 PM

Helps to improve relationships better :)

mdim on 22 Feb 2016, 09:11 AM

useful article, pls go ahead

Arghodip on 03 Feb 2016, 11:52 AM

We all know about the good and bad facts out of it, only need to follow sincerely :)

biswaranjan210 on 29 Jan 2016, 12:24 PM

Its really helpful if we implement this in our life!!!

ashukanha on 29 Jan 2016, 11:53 AM

very nice article ..Thank you:)

janaviprabhu on 22 Jan 2016, 06:25 AM

Very convincing article

vijaynkumar on 12 Jan 2016, 07:09 AM

Managing team explained in the best and simplest way possible... Tq

srikaj on 23 Oct 2015, 13:23 PM

nice summary of people skills!!

Dazzle on 08 Sep 2015, 07:17 AM

good article!