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Extreme feelings of loneliness can be debilitating. However, there are many steps which one can take to overcome these feelings. Here are some constructive ways of coping with loneliness.

1. Accept invitations when they are offered. Sometimes you wonder if someone is only inviting you over because they have to or because they are sorry for you. Go anyway; who knows, you could end up making new friends and having a good time!
2. Connect. Phone someone, visit them or invite them over - or plan to meet somewhere. A casual acquaintance could turn into a friend.
3. Be responsive in conversation. Show people that you are interested in what they say by smiling and nodding.
4. Ask questions to keep the conversation flowing - and really listen to the answers. This will make others find it rewarding to talk to you.
5. Be open to the interests of other people and focus on interests you have in common with them.
6. Be visible. Do not stay away from people to hide your loneliness.
7. Stay positive. Do not make negative remarks about yourself.
8. Don't criticize easily. Try not to think critical thoughts about people you meet.
9. Be realistic. Do not think you have to be exceptionally clever or attractive to be liked.

Overcoming our loneliness and building a support system is indeed in our hands and might even be easier that we think. By using the above pointers, we all can learn ways of feeling connected with others!


Latest Comments

poojarajasekharan on 16 Jun 2021, 00:08 AM

Simple yet effective.

Blaze24 on 22 Aug 2017, 10:13 AM

When you try to connect but still fail. what to do?

Sirarahman on 01 Mar 2017, 02:59 AM

its Good to fell in Love with Music , Which is the great source to come out of feeling Lonely. And its really Works , One more thing i am influenced with is Nature. Just come out of the Stupid box (Mobile) and turn your head towards the real world.

Hirath on 04 Dec 2015, 19:30 PM

Try not to blame the people who expects your presence. Instead of Blaming & Scolding them, Find a privacy with yourselves and explain the good & bad facts about the particular scenario in a well and non-offensive manner. This will help to bond well the relationship b/w you & the people.

nelseq on 18 Aug 2015, 04:35 AM

Hi raftag there is difference between being alone and feeling lonely. If inspite of being surrounded by people you know and spending time with them, you feel lonely then there is some past related to it which you may not know. going for counselling and knowing it is the best way.

anirudhkm on 14 Aug 2015, 05:03 AM

Perhaps it would be nice to allocate some time of the day for that 'lonely person' who lives within us... and at other times explore and make friends. Self-talk is one of the most mature things a human could do (Know Thyself...) . So at lonely times , we could talk with ourselves ( in our minds :) )

raftag on 13 Aug 2015, 12:03 PM

What to do, when you are in a crowd of known people, smiling and taking with them but you are surrounded with loneliness inside.