We all go through different traumas in life. Some are easier to deal with while others leave us drained out. There is a way to move on. This article could help you see the effective ways of coping with an emotional trauma.
...were there possibility to of safe birth of child? Why to give up not to seek second opinion ? Accepting thing as they are is a good thing but just giving up. Suffering you both went through was horrible but why not give it a try?